أَنّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَامَ فِي النَّاسِ ، فَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ ، وَأَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ ، وَقَالَ : " إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا ، إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا ، إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ ، فَإِنَّهُنَّ أُمَّهَاتُكُمْ ، وَبَنَاتُكُمْ ، وَأَخَوَاتُكُمْ ، وَعَمَّاتُكُمْ ، وَخَالاتُكُمْ ، إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْكِتَابَيْنِ يَتَزَوَّجُ الْمَرْأَةَ ، وَمَا يَعْلَقُ بَدَنَهَا الْحَبَطُ ، فَمَا يَرْغَبُ وَاحِدٌ مِنْهُمَا عَنْ صَاحِبِهِ حَتَّى يَمُوتَا هَرِمًا " . قال أَبُو سَلَمَةَ : فحدثت بهذا الحديث الْعَلاء بْن سُفْيَان الغساني ، فَقَالَ : لقد بلغني أن من الفواحش التي حرم الله مما بطن مما لم يتبين ذكرها فِي القرآن أن يتزوج الرجل المرأة ، فإذا تقادم صحبتها ، وطال عهدها ، ونفضت مَا فِي بطنها طلقها من غير ريبة
It has been collected by Ibn ‘Aasakir in ‘Tareekh Dimishq’ from Yahya bin Jabir from al-Miqdam bin Ma`dee Karib al-Kindi that the Prophet - sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam - stood amongst the people and praised Allaah and exalted Him and said:
‘Indeed Allaah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, indeed Allaah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, advices you in the strongest possible terms with regards to women, indeed they are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts (father’s sisters) and your maternal aunts(mother’s sisters). Indeed a man from the people of the two books (Jews & Christians) marries a woman and does not hit her, each one of them continues to desire his companion until he dies in old age.’
Abu Salmah said I narrated this hadeeth to al-Ala bin Sufyaan al-Ghassanee who said: ‘Indeed it has reached me that from the evil hidden sins which Allaah has made Haraam, which are not clearly mentioned in the Qur`an, are that a man marries a woman and when his companion becomes old and she has stayed with him for a long time, and has produced all that her womb can, then he divorces her without any reason to do so.’
Shaykh Albaani mentions:
‘It is collected by Tabarani in ‘al-Mu’jam al-Kabeer’, Ibn ‘Aasakir in ‘Tareekh Dimishq’. And this Isnad is Saheeh.’ [Silsilah Saheehah No.2871]
Then he quotes al-Harbi:
قال الحربي: يقول من
صغرها وقلة رفقها، فيصبر عليها حتى يموتا هرما. والمراد حث أصحابه على
الوصية بالنساء، والصبر عليهن. أي أن أهل الكتاب يفعلون ذلك بنسائهم
‘The intent is to encourage the one being advised to have a concern for women, to have patience with them. i.e. and that the people of the Book behaved like this with their women.’
Shaykh Albaani said:
قلت
: كان ذلك منهم حين كانوا على خلق وتدين ولو بدين مبدل، أما اليوم فهم
يحرمون ما أحل الله من الطلاق، ويبيحون الزنى بل واللواط علنا!!
‘This is how they (The Jews & the Christians) used to behave when they had manners, and were religious, even though they followed a religion that had changed, as for nowadays then they prohibit that which Allaah has made permissible of divorce, and they openly make Zina permissible! !’ End quote
This hadeeth is a clear refutation against those who do not treat their women in a good way. It is a reminder to everyone who is deceived by the so-called rights of women in the west!
More than his words, he behaved and showed us all via his own example how to be with our wives. See how the Prophet (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) behaved with his wife : http://the-finalrevelation.blogspot.com/2012/08/how-the-prophet-treated-his-wives.html
